31 Mar How would YOU answer these three key questions?
“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.” Job 31:1 (NIV)
We all have them. And this regret is probably my biggest.
Of course, I’m not proud of it – totally ashamed of it, actually – but God used this repugnant habit, my biggest regret, to bring me back into right relationship with Him. I just love how God works like that (see Luke 15:11-32)!
That regret, that habit was a 16-year pornography addiction ending precisely on Wednesday, October 25, 2000 at 8pm. God forgives sinners just like us.
And, despite my wrong assumption all those years that I was the only one in the world caught up in this deceitful web of lust, I soon discovered upon coming “clean” there are millions of people of all ages caught up in that same web. In fact, so prevalent is the scourge of pornography that over my years of public speaking, there is usually at least one man who catches me after one of my messages for advice on how to extricate himself from his own pornography addiction.
Perhaps you’re one of them?
Our stories, I’ve found, are almost always the same: we learn about porn as teens, often from teens, but all too often from our own father’s habits, which often ensnares us into a lifelong habit.
But what if we could teach our teens how to fight pornography now?
So, I was delighted when the Holy Spirit laid it upon my heart last summer to put together a program for teens to help them seek purity through accountability relationships.
Thus, Team LION Heart was born with the foundational verse, Job 31:1, “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.”
- Team (Matthew 18:20) because we walk out this life together
- LION for Jesus, the Lion of the Tribe of Judah (Revelation 5:5), who’s our center
- Heart because our spiritual “heart” for God is of paramount concern to Him (Deuteronomy 6:5)
Beginning in August 2016 and meeting every other week for 20 minutes over lunch, fellow board member Carl Reeder and I mentor several young men through a customized curriculum we designed for this new group. To keep it simple, we employ a progressive approach, introducing, defining, and discussing one term each session relevant to purity:
- What is purity?
- What is lust?
- What is accountability?
- What is encouragement?
- How do accountability partners work together?
Three key questions
Once the teens understood how we can stay pure through confidential peer accountability, we introduce three key questions, which we also discussed one week at a time. As you read these three key questions, think how you might answer them:
- Question #1: How have your quiet times been?
- Question #2: Have you been pure in your thought life and actions?
- Question #3: How can I be praying for you?
Again, by providing these key questions as a starting point to an accountability relationship and explaining how to use them, our teens were ready for the biggest step: bringing it all together.
Bringing it all together…
Climactically, beginning in February 2017 and moving forward, our teens pair off into accountability groups (see image) where they have an opportunity pursue purity together. Naturally, these questions aren’t used for judgment, or for getting them in trouble, or for gossip fodder. Nope, that has no place here. So, while the teens ask and answer these hard questions, it’s about so much more than just asking each other questions: it’s about building deeper bonds with Christ and others. And, as we adults know, that’s really the “big picture” of walking out this life in the best possible way: loving God, loving others, and making Him known everywhere!
Here’s the hard close: If a group of teens can come together successfully in an accountability relationship, what’s stopping YOU from joining together with another brother in Christ?
So here’s my CHALLENGE to you…
It’s hard, but simple: join in accountability with a trusted Christian brother and ask each other these three key questions, the same ones these teens ask each other.
It won’t always be easy each week, and it just might be a little awkward at times, but you can count on God to work through your accountability relationship to not only help you stay pure, but to grow a deeper relationship with Jesus!
A Faithful Dad’s mission is straightforward: Follow Jesus. Lead your family. Leave a legacy (1 Corinthians 11:1). God enables us to come alongside men from all walks of life, so we can leave a legacy that reflects Jesus, a lasting legacy that will make Jesus proud.
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On behalf of our board and serving Jesus with you,
Travis and Suzanne Zimmerman